Can a real relationship be on line?
Is every woman in the world using the Internet as their own personal dating service.? I wouldn’t complain if only they had morals and ethics. But that is something that i haven’t found. Additionally, i would like to make this known to everyone. I am not looking for anything other than friendship. I am focused on my goals and i know what i want in life and i am not going to waste time on things that are of no lasting value.
In our modern society, people have an obsession with finding “ love ” on the Internet. This is an issue that i had never given any serious thought to until recently. I was in a chat room, looking for some interesting conversation. What i found was more troubling than that, and it was more than i had bargained for. This woman started messaging me and we chatted for a while. Then she began moving the conversation forward at a rapid rate. Shortly there after she was calling me. I didn’t have a problem with that at first. Then she started talking about coming to meet me and i began to get nervous. However, i went with the flow. The next thing that i knew she was talking about staying with me and then there were all of the topics about relationships. She sent emails signed with the phrase ” your girl always”.
I have a lot of problems with things like these. First and foremost, you cannot be with a person that you have never met. Secondly, no person in there right mind is going to travel a long distance to be with a person that they have just met on the Internet. Relationships don’t occur in a chat room, they are like flowers, they take time to grow and eventually they may bloom. Also, any such relationship would be a long distance relationship. Such relationships only work if the two people have been together for a long time. You cannot start at a distance and then move to be together.
People are supposed to meet each other face to face. And from there fate may take its course. But it is highly unlikely that any two people will ever have a meaningful relationship over the Internet.
I do realize that people may not agree with the things that i write. And i do respect the opinions of others. However, i must stand firm upon my beliefs and my principles. And it is with moral conviction that i write the things that i feel and i know.
In the fast paced world in which we live, people do not take the time to meet people as they once did. Everyone is in a hurry to get somewhere and do something. But what are they really accomplishing. The best journeys are the ones that take time and the one that lessons are learned from. People are skipping that for something that promises to be fast and easy.
The chemistry between two people cannot be measured through wires and keyboards. It is something that has to be felt. People may share common interests, but it is that chemistry that people need in order to make a relationship succeed.
July 31st, 2009 at 8:39 am
I disagree with you completely. Chemistry doesn’t necessarily have to be a physical attraction, in that two people have to be present in order to be felt… it can be in the way the person speaks, their persona, the general feeling you get when you are chatting to them. Besides, with the “wires” and “keyboards” you state, you can have personal experiences with someone else via webcam and microphone.
Internet relationships don’t also mean that users are after a “quick fix” to their love solutions. People who are genuinely interested in finding someone compatible tend to use the internet, because it can give them a wider selection than a bar or night club.
In your case, it would probably be best to state your intentions over the internet. If you are after friendship, then let the other person know, otherwise they will assume something different if you are allowing them to call your house.
I have been in a relationship over the internet for four years. I knew (through the chemistry I felt) that this was something I had never felt for a person before. We then met in person after 2 years, and are still in a relationship. We plan on getting married in the next year.
I am from Australia, and he from America.
It is quite a bold statement to say “You cannot start at a distance and then move to be together”, when I’m sure that there are plenty more stories similar to mine, which would prove your statement wrong.
Although I understand that you are entitled to your opinion, it seems slightly bias, ignoring thousands upon thousands of success stories across the internet just because you have had some bad experiences.
August 2nd, 2009 at 2:46 am
I understand what you’re saying, as I’ve heard many of those things over and over. I’ve been in a relationship for 1 1/2 years now and never met the person face to face. I know what you mean about feeling nervous about them seeing you, but relationships in any case no matter how close or far away…involve a great deal of trust. If you can establish that, then anything is possible.