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Having been divorced and single for quite a while and feeling bored, I intimated to my friend that I think I am ready to date again. She instantly immersed herself into this project, constantly searching the on-line dating sites for my ‘Mr Right’. She is a married woman. Personally, I think it was just a pretext for her to satisfy her own curiosity but she made it so much fun, so I let her.

Its interesting that with so much choice we still fail to choose what is right for us in the long term. With her help and encouragement, I set up dates and met up with a few ‘decent’ guys’. You have no way of telling what a person’s character is based on on-line chat, a few email and exchange of photos and a single meeting. Besides, people will listen carefully to what you say and figure out what it is that you want out of a relationship, then tell you exactly what you want to hear. For both men and women this means that we fall prey to people with ulterior motives other than finding love.

As much as these sites are growing daily in popularity and number, they are not without blemish.

Besides, we all fail to make up our minds blinded by so much choice and of course, greed. This makes the sites a haven for internet predators with no proper screening taking place, people can be anything and anyone they choose to be. The best advice is to be careful at all times. If its too good to be true, then it probably is!

Because we have so much choice and can change our minds as many times as we want, we seem not to consider other people’s feelings. This sort of frees us from accountability, responsibility and care and we go about building people’s hopes up and letting them down because we can replace them or find a better looking model whenever we want to. I have listened to a lot disappointing on-line dating stories and I feel people feel free to use other people because they might never meet them anyway. I feel like although we are blessed with choice sometimes we spend so much time dithering we end up losing out on promising relationships. I acknowledge all the good relationships that have come out of on-line dating but feel its such a shame that these sites cannot be reserved for people who are genuinely looking for relationships.