She’s not as innocent as she wants you to think.
When I was younger, my mother would not let me go on the Internet for anything other than school work. No Xanga, no Facebook and definitely no Myspace. If I was caught even talking to a friend about the social networking sites, the friend was banned from the house ( for being a “bad influence” ) and I was often times grounded. Sound a little extreme? Well, nothing was extreme for mommy dearest if it meant she could protect her daughter from a pedophile, whose target was specifically girls my age.
Now, this never made sense to me. Did she not trust me? Did she really think that I, a fifteen year old girl, would be so stupid as to give my personal information to, or agree to meet up with a complete stranger? And say I did happen to start talking to someone posing as a fifteen year old boy, if I really was the “sweet innocent” young girl that many victims are portrayed as, then not only would I NOT be telling him what color my panties were, but I would certainly not go off on my own to meet him in person.
OK, so I will let the very first girl that got raped or killed because they agreed to meet up with someone they met on-line off the hook. Nothing like that had ever happened before so how were they supposed to know? You can’t really blame her, she was still living in a bubble world where nothing bad ever happened.
But NOW….how can any of these “victims” not be to blame? They know the risks, and yet they still put themselves in such situations. It doesn’t make any sense!
I’ll admit, there are times when a young woman will meet someone “really cool” on-line and then agree to meet up for drinks, and the shit hits the fan. I’m not talking about the WOMAN who are victims of sex crimes. I am talking about the so called innocent fifteen year old girl who, craving attention decides to befriend an absolute stranger on the Internet. She gives them personal details about herself and in turn he will feed her lies about himself, quickly turning himself from a stranger to a trusted confidante. He will tell her she is pretty and ask why she doesn’t have a boyfriend. She will feel special and the relationship progresses. Pretty soon they are exchanging dirty words and agreeing to meet in person.
How stupid can you possibly be??!!
Fine, you met someone really awesome on the Internet. If you really must meet them in person, make it a double date for heaven sakes, bring a friend!
How can you possible expect anyone to feel sorry for you, when you most likely brought it upon yourself? My advice to any young lady who finds herself in a situation where she has to make the choice on if she should continue a friendship with a stranger on the Internet is simply this….
- Act like a lady- Seriously, if it really was a boy your age on the other end, he wouldn’t be saying such dirty things to you. Don’t give that creepy old man the opportunity to masturbate over your words, show some class.
- If you really are convinced that your new friend is a legit person, only agree to meet up with him during the day, in a public place and bring a friend…or a least a can of pepper spray.
Use some common sense ladies and I can guarantee you will stay safe.
May 18th, 2009 at 11:15 am
I totally agree. People are just being retarded about the way they meet people online! I DID IT. I had like thousands and thousands of friends on myspace, I didn’t know more than 1/6th of all of my friends! I decided it was kinda creepy after some old man from washington knew what I was always doing. I deleted everyone I didn’t know. I wasn’t about to get kidnapped. IT’s all about being SMART!
May 18th, 2009 at 6:38 pm
Wow. I’m glad no one commented negatively on this one for me to verbally abuse. Well written, my dear. Classy, unmercifully true, and insightful. Kudos
May 21st, 2009 at 10:41 pm
I would like to say I meet quite a few people online in person. I met my girlfriend of two years online and couldn’t be happier with her. that being said I still agree that giving out personal information and meeting with people any where that isn’t very public and with a trusted friend is very dangerous due to those who would try to prey on young girls or boys for thatt matter. I dispise those people that are on here trying to meet up with the younger users and use false pretenses. if you are going to meet with someone use extreme precautions and never go anywhere alone to meet anyone.
June 17th, 2009 at 5:51 pm
Its great you would post something like this some people make them selfs very vulnerable. There was a Guy over here by Rhode Island called the Craig’s List killer who was preying on girl’s from craigslist!! Scary stuff.
June 17th, 2009 at 8:09 pm
I would just like to point out that not all online predators are going to ask you what color your panties are. Some are going to study your friends list find out what music you like talk about your favorite movies and message you when they happen to have tickets to a concert in town. An older man has a huge advantage over a younger woman and that is experience he knows how to say the right things he will make you feel special and loved and all grown up and you may even willingly make love to him. But I assure you he is using you and he will hurt you.
By the way another great article keep it up!
June 23rd, 2009 at 7:07 pm
Wait are you saying that fifteen year old boys don’t know how to talk dirty or that they are to classy to talk dirty. I gotta tell ya most boys learn how to talk dirty before they learn to read.