Internet Long Distance Relationships

Mon, Sep 10, 2007, by E.F. Landeros

Web Talk

The pros and the cons of computer relationships.

The Reason

I do not know the reason for Internet relationships, I only know the reason I became involved in one. I could guess and say that the reason being is that it is the easiest way to be able to approach someone that you like. The whole image thing doesn’t have to be there, we could describe ourselves and yet we don’t have to worry about the way we look, or really look.

True feelings become part of your conversation when talking to a honest person through a chat room. The person that you are speaking to gets to know you on who you are and is not based on what you look like. Appearance plays a role in the attractiveness to your partner, but online dating can remove that factor until you are ready to explore that part of the relationship.

An Internet love turns around the whole process of dating it is get to know me than get to see me kind of deal, I guess you could call it a blind date. Many people get to know each other through chat rooms or dating sites like
eHarmony.com
and
Match.com
. These sites can look so tempting and than the advertisers bring in people that America trusts like Dr. Phil. This sort of dating is commercialized everywhere! T.V’s, Billboards and even through books. The problem is that a lot of people get involved with others FAR away from them causing them to have a Long Distance Relationship or a LDR.

The Pros

Mainly the good part of this kind of relationship is the mile barrier that you two have to withstand. Chances are you will have to find a way to be closer to each other and accommodate both your lives to your liking, this WILL take time. The worry and the jealousy may kick in depending on what your mind feels about the faithfulness of your partner, but during this away time you learn to strengthen yourself and it betters your relationship because you can see how faithful you are both to each other.

The Cons

There is a lot to be worried about during this sort of relationship, you have to remember that you DO NOT know this person. A person might be in the thought that since you know them online you know them as a person, but that is not the truth at all. This person has not yet seen you or has gotten the chance to be intimate with you not sexually but physically as an example: Kissing or holding hands.

Living with this person may strengthen your views of him or her or it might deflate the whole purpose of your love, They can LIE. Age and features can all be changed just by the press of a couple keys BE CAUTIOUS. If you are going to take part in this sort of relationship remember to use your brains think before you act, play it safe and be safe. DO NOT get lost in emotions, stand your ground and use your head!

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  1. Dianna Says:

    I am in an internet relationship, I have been for 1 yaer, and I dearly love him. I sometimes wonder if he’s just placating me, but a lot of the time I feel that his affections are genuine. ^.^

  2. sheila Says:

    cant u meet just once

  3. Sarah R. Says:

    I’m in a long distance internet relationship and I have been for about two months now…I feel this guys really loves me. We were friends on this website before we got together so I know everything he’s told me is the truth…we plan on meeting each other one day next year and I can’t wait.

  4. Eric Says:

    I’m surprised how you can “know he loves” you when you have never met. You feel that, but the way you feel that can be very emotionally dangerous. For the entire time you are internet “dating” the focus should be on establishing a friendship not intimacy. You don’t establish intimacy until you meet the person. A lot of times you just need to capitalize on this internet thing, if the worst that happens is you end up having a new friend you love talking to then you don’t lose out. The best case scenario is when you finally meet Mr. Right.

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