Why are You Facebook Stalking?

Fri, Aug 27, 2010, by meandu

Social Networks

Is facebook stalking on the rise? Do you know what facebook stalking is? Why are you facebook stalking? These are interesting questions for someone who is not all that familiar with facebook or facebooking if you prefer that term.

Is facebook stalking on the rise? Do you know what facebook stalking is? Why are you facebook stalking? These are interesting questions for someone who is not all that familiar with facebook or facebooking if you prefer that term.

Stalking is the act or process of stealthily following or trying to approach somebody or something or it can also be the act of steady harassment:  the crime of harassing somebody with persistent, inappropriate, and unwanted attention. Please note here the words persistent, inappropriate, and unwanted. This would leave one to believe that stalking someone is not an acceptable past time. When you facebook stalk you are in the privacy of your own home while you turn on the computer and basically go onto someone else’s page, preferably a friend or close relative, to gain information or current pictures of this person. Now that does not seem so bad. There are hundreds of people on facebook, so facebook stalking must be on the rise. It becomes bad or “creepy” when you are facebooking because you are trying to catch someone in a lie, are obsessing over and old flame, or even literally stalking someone (harassing them) with the intent to harm them via the internet.

Why would you obsess over an ex to this extent? Perhaps it is because you have regrets over a lost love, or maybe you just have not let go. You are craving second hand gossip on what your past love is doing. You have almost become obsessed with knowing how he or she is faring, or has fared, depending on how long ago the break-up happened. Perhaps you are one of those who create a new facebook identity (a false one of course) to keep up with the ex. I am not sure what justification there is in that. Think about if for a moment…you create a false identity (lie about who you are) to keep up with an old flame who probably cheated on you in the first place (cheating is a form of lying). Now you have compounded one form of lying with another. Add to this the fact that you have, or are, wasting time obsessing about the past instead of moving on to the bright future that is waiting for you.

It is my belief that when we over concentrate on the past we do not give ourselves time to grieve a bad experience. Oh yes, if the relationship broke up it was a bad experience–for at least one of you anyway. So maybe you need to stop obsessing, stop googling, get off facebook, back away from the computer and go outside. Who knows you may even meet someone new.

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  1. yes me Says:

    Don’t do much face book use it to catch my friends in a/b canada ha ha

  2. carissimi Says:

    creepy.. great post.

  3. AshleyApathy Says:

    nice post, very different

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