Online Relationships : Problems

When two persons are never face-to-face and have online contacts, they go by a lot of imaginations about each other. These imaginations are positive as wll as negative, while positive imaginations keep them binding, negative ones make them repulsive to each other. Of course, the beginning is made with positive imaginations, else they would have been no connection between them. 

Whatever be the duration of the connection, or whatever be the level of connectivity between te two, a lot of imaginations are always there in minds of the both about each other. This is true even in direct contacts too but to a lower extent. A direct eye contact replaces a lot of imaginations about each other. Further, in direct contact, a lot of things are verifiable about each other to clear doubts if any. In online contacts such opportunities are rare. One reason for this difference is that direct contacts have limited physical distance between the two while there is no such limitatioon in online contacts. Therefore more the distance, more is the need of imaginations. 

Online contacts are based on mainly two sources – written words and photos. Written words are never as trustworthy as spoken ones because the writer has time to think and write and he may be manipulative in this process. Spoken words too have such a chance but to a much less degree. A photograph may be more deceiving than even the written words. One pphotograph of a person may may show him/her quite beautiful while in another he/she may look quite ugly. Naturally, the photographs posted online are of the best type, therefore don’t give a realistic view of the person. Thus, both the written words as well as the photographs are not relable resources of knowing a person. This leaves enough chances for imaginations to work.

When a person imagines positively about another, the former draws the best possible picture of the other and his/her expectations from the other are equally bright. When such greatly positive expectations are not met with, negative thoughts about the other come in to play their roles. As the positive imaginations tend to be the best, the negative imaginations, propped up by doubts, are equally the worst, jeopardising the relationship instantly.   

Emotional sensitivity of the individual plays the most important role in making or breaking an online contact. While hypersemsitive persons prove to be the worst in online contacts, insensitive persons prove more successful in keeping the contact warm and ongoing. 

Solution for keeping an online contact warm, once it is established, lies in taking utmost care about emotional needs of the other, be attentive and never do a thing what the other, you care for, does not like.