Another list of most frequently asked questions concerning online dating.
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Q. How many agencies should I be a member of at the same time?
A. The more agencies you join the better your chances are of finding a partner but it is a good idea to keep the number at under five so you can better monitor your correspondence.
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Q. If I get a response from someone I’m not interested in do I have to reply to let them know that I’m not interested?
A. Although it would certainly be kind of you, you really don’t have to let them know. You’ll find that most people online simply do not respond if they’re not interested and are used to getting the silent treatment in return.
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Q. Are dating agencies the only way to meet someone online?
A. There are dozens of avenues you can take toward finding someone in addition to dating agencies. You can post ads with numerous personal ad websites. There are many online singles’ forums and groups. You can also meet people through online communities such as MySpace and Facebook. Many people have met through chatrooms. Another route that more people are resorting to is building their own personal websites.
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Q. I’ve been communicating with someone for quite sometime but there are no sparks. How do I let the person go?
A. As cruel as it may seem, most people simply stop writing or they start writing less frequently until they finally stop altogether. It would be a good gesture if you send a short email telling the person that you’re not interested but it won’t really earn you any points.
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Q. I’m getting ready to meet someone in person with whom I’ve been communicating but I’m scared because of some of the horror stories I’ve heard. How can I keep myself safe?
A. Arrange to meet in a public place during the daytime, like a coffee shop or food court. Try to arrange for a friend to accompany you or let someone you know real well know your whereabouts for that day.
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Q. What’s this I hear about the marriage agencies for foreign brides being scams?
A. Many of the marriage agencies specializing in foreign introductions have indeed been discovered to be frauds, some even using prostitutes to correspondence with unsuspecting men. Agencies that specialize in introducing women of the former Soviet Union have been the biggest problem. In many cases, however, it’s not that the agency is a fraud but was merely being used for criminal activity just like many web-based communities in the U.S. are frequently used by criminals.
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Q. I just joined an online dating agency. How many people should I introduce myself to per day?
A. Between five and ten. But also keep in mind that not everyone will respond within 24 hours so don’t arbitrarily respond to so people that you’ll soon find yourself corresponding with about 20 possible prospects. That could make deciding on one quite difficult.
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Q. Which is better, joining a dating agency or posting a personal ad with an ad agency?
A. Dating agencies and marital agencies are the least likely to be used by losers and curiosity-seekers than ad agencies and other online communities. Also, with a dating agency, you can use search parameters to narrow down your choices.
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Q. What makes online marriage agencies so convenient?
A. Perhaps the biggest convenience is that they allow you to be more selective. By using the search parameters, you can find the type of person you’re looking for a lot better. If you’re at a nightclub or bar or church, you can’t just grab a microphone and say, “I need all single, marriage-minded, nonsmoking, men/women with college degrees and who like traveling, hiking, dancing, pop music, jazz music and don’t do drugs to come and introduce yourself to me!”
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Q. How long should I correspond with someone before finally meeting in person?
A. This really depends on how comfortable the two of you are with one another. Many people have met in person within one hour of meeting online; some have waited for as long as two years. On average, most people correspond for anywhere between three months and a year before meeting up.
Thu, Apr 30, 2009, by ActionSammy
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